Nick Rodriguez, Partner

Be reasonable and fair – seeking an equitable solution will be quicker, easier and much less painful, giving you more time to get on with your life

Be open-minded – try to remember the good times and focus on your new future. This is especially important where children are involved. A positive mindset will help us develop better long-term solutions

Take time out – it’s easy to let relationship breakdown overwhelm you. Take time out to do whatever makes you happy – it will help you keep a sense of proportion.

Will I win?

There should be no winners or losers – you should be seeking a fair and equitable settlement

Will I have to sell my house?

That depends upon other assets available, but it often is the case that changes have to be made.

Will I get to see my children?

Yes, you will.

Can I use the children to get the settlement I want?

No – these are very separate issues and it is important for children to have a meaningful relationship with both parents.